TRUST ISSUES: Why Is It So Hard For People To Trust?

What is trust? Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

Childhood experiences that contribute to trust issues.

There are numerous aversive childhood experiences that contribute to children’s mistrust and lack of confidence. For example, parents’ inconsistent responses or their failure to deliver on their promises create insecurity and distrust in their children. A parent’s frightening outbursts of rage can shatter a child’s trust in a predictable world. The betrayal of trust that occurs with sexual abuse as well as with incident of severe physical abuse over the long-term can trigger dissociative states in young victims. These events can also set up expectations of future betrayals or lead to certain blind-spot in an individual’s ability to accurately judge the trustworthiness of others.

These painful events in childhood leave unseen scars and have a profound impact on us throughout life. In an attempt to protect ourselves, we build a system of defenses against our pain, confusion, and disillusionment. Some of us vow never to trust anyone ever again; others become hyper-vigilant and feel determined to not be a “sucker.” If we were hurt by our parents’ dishonesty, we may see other people from a skewed perspective and develop harsh, cynical attitude towards them. These self-protective defense help us preserve an illusion of strength and invulnerability, yet these same defense limit our capacity for trusting others and for finding fulfillment in a close relationship. 


10 Things Women Don’t Want Men To Know About Them.

As wonderful and as beautiful as women are, they are full of secrets. Women create illusions in society in order to give off an appearance of perfection. However, in reality women are flawed, just like men. Men and women are very different from one another. Women tend to be more complicated than men and although it drives men crazy, it is part of what they love about women. 

There is a continuous war between men and women that has been passed down from generation to generation. The two sexes need to come together as one and open up about them although that is an unlikely option, which is why i am writing this. This will give men insight into some of the things women just don’t want you to know, and by knowing them maybe they will help you understand the ladies a bit more. For all you women out there, don’t worry, i didn’t reveal all our secrets!

10. How much our things really cost

9. Heels do hurt

8. We fix things after you do them

7. We actually have hair other places than our heads

6. The amount of time we spend getting ready

5. That we tell our friends everything 

4. How much we have stalked you

3. We have secretly changed you 

Women do not do this to transform men, they do not touch their core, however, since women are somewhat shallow beings, they want their men to look as perfect as they do. 

2. We all think long term

1. We are afraid of losing you 

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Weaknesses of a woman in a relationship.

Every human being who has seized to have a healthy life has had weaknesses. By, weaknesses i do not mean health related issues, but those tiny mole hills or mountains for some of us women, on which we normally trip upon or find it necessary to take some Prozac for. So here is a list of nine out of bazillion weaknesses that a woman has when in a relationship. However, let it be known to all men reading this, that we women do not find this list as a matter of pride; rather it as a matter of angst for when you are not–so–understanding.
  1. Self–esteem is attracted to being beautiful and popular 

2. Completely emotional 

3. Disclosing information 

4. Forgiving 

5. Expectations and false hopes

6. Wanting the partner to be romantic most of the time 

7. Offering innocent ideas

8. If you are more successful than him

9. Giving up everything far too quickly.  

For more emphasis on any of the nine points listed above, drop your comments. 

Carpal tunnel syndrome 

Do you know why most crocheters in the earlier years held the hook in their hand like a pencil? In the 1800s, the hand positioning was thought to be more feminine and graceful. Many crocheters now hold their hook in the palms of their hands (often called the “knife hold”) to reduce carpal tunnel syndrome.